Wednesday, November 26, 2008
ONE WAY FAITH MAKES A DIFFERENCE
As I was reading an Israeli news service this morning, Arutz-Sheva, a column by Jeff Jacoby* caught my eye. I want to share a blurb from that column because it demonstrates how faith in God is a blessing to the world.
"The Los Angeles Times reported last year on research showing that people without faith were less likely to help a poor or homeless person than religious believers. While both were equally likely to describe themselves as 'good citizens,' their charitable practices were strikingly different. Americans of no faith donated an annual average of two hundred dollars to charity; active-faith adults typically contributed fifteen hundred dollars. Even when church-based giving was subtracted from the mix, religious Americans donated twice as much to charity as the nonreligious."
The political liberals believe that taxes are a form of giving, and while legislating them for everyone else, will enact special privileges for themselves to avoid paying their fair share. While people of faith, after being over-taxed, will dig down and give more to those in need. See how faith and love make a difference?
Grace&Peace,
Tom
*Jacoby is a columnist for the Boston Globe.
Monday, November 24, 2008
THE NEW BIRTH
I'm reading a book, for the second time, called, Encounters with Christ, by Mark Moore. It is in Nicodemus' encounter with Jesus that Dr. Moore makes the comment, "The reason we enter as new-borns is because nothing of our old life is relevant to the new . . . The truth is, unless we come humbled and barren, with empty hands and open hearts, then access to the kingdom is denied. There are no shortcuts, no alternate routes. All must pass the way of the cross."
Moore's comment is a great comment, but it set me to thinking, "Are you sure that nothing of the old is relevant to the new? It is true that nothing of the old life is relevant to the attainment of the new life, but in terms of performance, there is much in the old life that is relevant to the new life." Think about it: We are still saddled with the same genetic code; we still have to deal with the negative dynamics of traumatic life experiences; and we are still immersed in a flood of the world's influences. How are we to survive the new birth in view of all this?
We have a new identity--we are God's children now. "Therefore, if any one is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, behold, the new is come" (II Corinthians 5:17). In Christ, we have a new standing, with new privileges and promises that were not available to us before.
In the new birth there is a new dynamic that is unleashed in our lives that is more powerful than the world, the flesh and the devil; the Spirit of God. "And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being changed into his likeness from one degree of glory to another; for this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit" (II Corinthians 3:18). If you are looking to our Heavenly Father for guidance and sustenance then you will survive the new birth and grow into a fine child of God. I can't wait for the great family reunion!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
FINDING THE TRUTH
The average U.S. girl has the opportunity to see 77,546 commercials by the time she is 12 years old.*
One hundred twenty seven million Americans visit WalMart each week, while only 68 million watch the networks evening news.** The one who reported that statistic makes it sound like a bad thing that so few watch the network evening news. However, I see it as a good thing because the main-stream media is so slanted toward liberalism. Any attempt at objectivity has been lost. This election cycle, the main-stream media was in bed with Obama. It is tough to find objective reporting these days, but it certainly does not come from the network's evening news. One probably gets a better perspective about reality at WalMart.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
*The Foster Report.
** TFR
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
A TABLE GRACE
The Morse family were missionaries in north Burma when the Communists took over the government. They were given expulsion orders. The family and about 2,000 Lisu tribal people made a westward trek to the Indian border, but were not allowed in, so, they made their home in a valley in the unsurveyed border area between India and Burma. It is an inspiring story that was published by Readers Digest in 1974. It is a story about God's provision, the value of freedom and simple Christian faith. If you can find the book, give it a read! It will increase your faith! I just finished it.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Thursday, November 06, 2008
ELECTION THOUGHTS
Have you ever sat on the beach and watched the waves come into shore? Have you ever watched the tide come in or go out? A preacher friend of mine was wading in waist-deep water on a Florida beach. Who would have thought he could have been swept out into the ocean nearly a mile? Even though the waters look calm, the waters are alive with currents.
So it is with people. The most quiet people can have the strongest emotions within them. With people groups there are certainly ebbs and flows of emotions, values. There is never stasis!
We witnessed the ebb and flow of the American people in the election on Tuesday. To me it was personally disheartening to see the expansion of liberalism. In my view, it will destroy America, but if that is the change the American people want, so be it. The positive results of the election were: A black man was elected as president, and homosexual marriage was blocked in California. The courts will probably over-rule the will of the people on that issue, however.
Obama is my President. Conservatives will certainly treat him with much more respect than liberals treated President Bush. The liberals publicly called for Bush's assassination, and hurled every insult imaginable at him. Yet, in twenty years it will be recognized that Bush was one of our better presidents. In this financial crisis, brought on by Democrat congressional leadership in both houses, we are finding out that the economy of the United States is still the strongest in the world! (Note the strength of the dollar.) We have not had a terrorist attack on America since 911. Bush could have done much better, but if Obama does as well, we will be blessed.
As Christian people, our citizenship is in heaven; there is our hope. Utopia will not be found on earth! There will always be ebbs, flows and even stormy seas when it seems that all is lost, but the Christian's hope is in the one who cannot be shaken, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
I think one of the lessons that Christians should learn from this election is the futility of pushing Christian values on the non Christian through political power. Christian values are accepted by hearts that have surrendered to Jesus Christ. Not everyone who calls himself a Christian is one if they only have accepted Jesus as Savior, but never surrendered to Him as Lord.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, October 27, 2008
PROPHECIES OF CHRIST'S RESURRECTION

Friday, October 24, 2008
WHAT DOES A CONSERVATIVE LOOK LIKE?
There are 3 characteristics of a conservative. Actually, conservatives are very thoughtful and loving people. Sometimes, in working with addicts and the undisciplined, love has to be tough. Tough love, compassion, validates the worth of a person, but pity invalidates a person's worth by implying that a person is incapable of helping themselves. Only the government can help is the implication. The love of the conservative is compassionate, it is not pity.
1. The first characteristic of a conservative is traditional values--Judaeo-Christian values upon which our country was founded. As people of faith, the values gained from a rational study of the Bible form our world view.
2. Limited government is the 2nd characteristic belief of the conservative. Government is a necessary evil. It is power. I have a Romanian friend that lived under communism. She told me the police could enter any one's home at anytime for any cause--what a terrifying way to live! The global-warming people want to save the planet by limiting meat consumption to 4 three ounce servings per week per person. How will they enforce that? The food police in your home at any time? Humm. Over 40 years ago, senator Fulbright from Arkansas said that the Constitution was outmoded. Politicians love power and they would like nothing better than to get rid of it. They have found a way, in the last 40 years to invalidate the Constitution--by packing the court with liberal judges who then legislate from the bench. The intention of the Constitution was to harness the power of government for the welfare of the people and for their protection. When the people of the United States have to fear the government then it is the government that has to be reigned in.
3. Market economy. Much has been said about the lack of regulation being the cause of the current financial crisis. Granted, there has to be regulation because corruption, sin, is to be found in the free market just as corruption is found in government. The government overseers, in this case, congressman and senators, were just as corrupt as the over-paid CEO's! Our problems did not result from a free market but from corrupt regulators! It is amazing to me that the free people of the United States want to turn over the health-care system to the same bunch who gave us the financial crisis! There will always be scarcity and hardship when government manages an economy. In the UK there are long waiting lists for people who need specialized treatment;it is not uncommon for one to die waiting for treatment. Now the government there says they have a right not to treat those who do not exercise or eat a healthy diet. That is also why medical tourism is the fastest growing kind of tourism. One will have to go to a third-world country for treatment!
Traditional values, limited government and market economy--do you believe in those? If you do, vote for someone who supports these values. When most people find out what conservatism actually is, they have found themselves to be more conservative than they thought they were.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
IDENTITY MATTERS TO THE ADDICT
If you have read the gospels at all, one of the obvious points that has to prick your heart is what a great love Jesus had for sinners and those in difficult circumstances. You also had to notice what disdain he had for the self-righteous and those more interested in preserving religious tradition than in being compassionate to those in desperate conditions, "Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites, because you shut off the kingdom of heaven from people; for you do not enter in yourselves, nor do you allow those who are entering to go in" (Matthew 23:13).
Those of us in Christian leadership in the Lord's Church should tremble at these words! Are we more interested in what people can do for our church rather than what our church can do for people?
I'm saying all this because there are a huge number of people out in the general population that are struggling with addictions. Jesus loves them! We need to love them too, in a healthy way like Jesus did. The first step in dealing with an addict is to bring him to Jesus Christ. Admittedly, a person can fake this step and it will be worthless to them. However, one of the reasons this is necessary is that it provides another identity to the addict. He is no longer an addict. He is a Christian struggling with an addiction. The change in identity makes a difference! One of the characteristics of an addict is one of shame--"I'm no good!" or "What a wretched man I am!". The message of the cross is that God loves you now matter what addiction you have--He wants you to be one of His own!
Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, October 20, 2008
"SILVER BULLETS" ENDORSES JOHN McCAIN
COMMENT: Our forefathers recognized that when a person has to fear for doing good then the governing authorities have lost their legitimacy.
Silver Bullets is proud to give Senator John McCain its endorsement for President of the United States. In the military, John McCain served our country with heroism, dignity and principal.
In the political arena he has indeed been a maverick, bucking his own party. There has been much in his political past that I have strongly disagreed with him, yet he is a known quantity and he is cooperative. His is an experienced leader who is trust-worthy.
The same cannot be said for Barack Obama. We really know very little about him. We know more about Sarah Palin and Joe the plumber than we know about Obama. Obama releases none of his records. We do not even know that he is truly a citizen of the United States. We do know that a significant number of his friends hate America. Even though Obama has said nothing in his debates that is scary, what are we supposed to conclude? All we have is rhetoric. I know enough psychology to know that rhetoric is not a sufficient foundation for a relationship--it is not what you say, it is what you actually do that matters. About that we know very little. Obama really could be the "Manchurian Candidate!"
If someone comes to apply for a job, but is not willing to fill in all the information, would you hire him? I wouldn't! It is that simple.
One last difference between the two that is a core issue with me, and it is big enough in itself to determine my vote; McCain is pro-life and Obama is pro-abortion even through late-term, partial-birth abortion. This is not just a political issue, this is a moral issue and how one stands on this issue is a pretty good indicator of what one thinks of people in general; whether they are a blessing or a burden.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Friday, October 17, 2008
CHRISTIAN SUBMISSION 2
"and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ" (Ephesians 5:21).
"Wives be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22).
I doubt that submission would be such an emotional issue in the Christian home if Christian husbands were perfect, but, sadly, they are not. Generally, they are no better than the women they are married to, and no worse either. The honored place they have in the home, and in the church is by Divine direction, not because of innate superiority! The only reason that a woman would be regarded as being weaker is because she does not have the privilege that God has given to men. If this seems to be arbitrary and not fair, talk to God about it.
Because of the privilege God has given to men, they have a greater responsibility to honor their wives. How are wives to be honored? Several answers can be given, but I just want to mention understanding. One of the most important gifts that we can give to any one, and especially our wives, is that of truly listening with the intent of understanding her. She is not to be dismissed as an "air head," but is to be understood, validated and, of course, loved. The thoughts of a woman are not less valid, nor are the thoughts of a man more valid; validity does not depend on gender, rather, it depends on truth.
In the Christian church, submission is to be mutual with the members of the body submitting to each other in the love of Christ; we wouldn't expect it to be any less so in the Christian home. However, when the time comes to act, then the husband has to carry the load, acting in what he believes to be in the best interest of Christ, his wife and his children.
In the church, I believe that women can serve in any position that a man serves, with one exception, not in the position of elder-pastor-bishop. Again, this is by Divine direction. These are interchangeable terms in the New Testament for the same service. A woman can be an evangelist if she is under the supervision of the elder-pastor-bishops.
To a mother, the protection of her children is of paramount importance. During times of personal abuse or the abuse of children then all the talk of submission is over. Personal safety and the safety of the children comes first. In the cases of abuse, prolonged infidelity or addictions, the vows have been violated. Submitting , in these situations, would increase the danger and it does not honor God to stay in those situations!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
CHRISTIAN SUBMISSION
"For it was Adam who was first created and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression" (I Timothy 2:13,14).
The consequences of the sin in Eden are severe, and, to us, they do not seem to be fair. Physical death is one that falls upon us all. The order of leadership in the home and the church is another. Why is it that God wants men to be leaders? Is it because they are smarter and more capable? No. Men and women do tend to see the world differently, but that is for complimenting each other; it does not mean that one is innately superior to the other. The apostle Paul says that men should be leaders for two reasons: 1. The order of creation; 2. Because it was Eve who was deceived; in-other-words, because of the fall. These are theological reasons, and therefore, the order of leadership is a matter of faith. Women of faith take this matter seriously while women of the world do not; it just seems to be a natural dynamic for women to desire everything that a man has.
Tomorrow, I will write about how submission works in the Christian home.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
PROPHECY OF THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST
The third picture is the non-traditional site of the crucifixion of Christ. Visually, it appears to be a more accurate site than the traditional site of the cross below. The Roman's practice was to crucify people in well-traveled places so that the local population would be intimidated. Both pictures meet the requirements of a probable location of the Crucifixion of Jesus. The second picture is of the courtyard outside the church of the holy sepulchre; it has tradition on its side, but the first picture looks more authentic.
"I will pour out on the house of David and on the inhabitants of Jerusalem, the Spirit of grace and of supplication, so that they will look on Me whom they have pierced; and they will mourn for Him, as one mourns for an only son, and they will weep bitterly over Him like the bitter weeping over a firstborn" (Zechariah 12:10).
There are several Scripture texts I could have used to show that the passion of the Christ was prophesied hundreds of years before the Christ child was born, but I chose this one because it is not so well-known. In John 19:37, John cites this text as being fulfilled in the crucifixion of Jesus Christ. One of the reasons I chose this prophecy of the Messiah is because the text makes it clear that the author of the text (God) is the one hanging on the cross and the one who is pierced. The text is about God in the flesh, loving us so much as to die for our sins! What a gracious God we serve!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, October 13, 2008
GOT IMMORTALITY?
"Millions long for immortality who do not know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon" (From a compilation of sayings collected by Dan Leininger).
Obviously, if eternal life is simply life without end, heaven isn't such a great place to anticipate. Eternal life is the life of the Eternal One--the only One who is truly immortal. Heaven will be an eternal life of love, creativity, peace, perfect fellowship, gratitude and rejoicing. While on this earth, eternal life--immortality, is also manifested by faith and hope. When it seems as if life is impossible, the one with immortality clings to the only hope there is--Jesus Christ. Now that is truly audacious!
Through these difficult times, keep your hope in Christ for He is the only real hope there is! I want to see you in Heaven!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Saturday, October 11, 2008
LOVE IS . . .
"Kind looks, kind words, kind acts, and warm handshakes--these are secondary means of grace when men are in trouble and are fighting their unseen battles." --John Hall
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Wednesday, October 08, 2008
WHAT IS YOUR TREASURE?
Being raised in a church-going family, I have heard many sermons, over the course of my life, about money and giving. Inevitably, the sermon always gets around to this verse, the interpretation of which goes like this: "If you give your money to the church then your heart will follow it. Your heart will be in heaven because you gave your money, which is your treasure, and where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." I have always believed that this to be, at the very least, isogesis, if not an outright, "flat-out" corruption of what the text means.
It is always good to have confirmation from a scholar. As I was reading this morning from Mark Moore's Encounters With Christ, his final statement about this text was this, "If Jesus is not our only treasure, then our inheritance is in jeopardy."
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Tuesday, October 07, 2008
DO ATHEISTS PRAY?
There was a bold headline in the October 4th Sioux City Journal that said, "Praying to whom? Study shows majority of American 'atheists' pray." The article that followed cited studies by Baylor University and by the Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life. These studies revealed that the majority of atheists in America are inclined to pray, and one third of them pray often.
Whatever one thinks of the validity of these studies, I do know that when life comes crashing down on atheists, they are willing to pray. I had an interesting marital counseling situation in which one of the spouses was a Christian and the other an atheist. During A counseling session it is always my policy to ask permission to pray together. When I asked permission for prayer with this couple, I expected a rejection. To my surprise, the permission was granted whole-heartedly. When life seems to be coming apart, even an atheist is willing to reach out to God.
Augustine said that 'God has made us for Himself and our souls cannot rest until they rest in Him.' I think these studies and my experience support the validity of Augustine's observation.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, October 06, 2008
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
This is not an exact quote, but I heard it from the pulpit of First Christian Church in Lawrence, Kansas, as Helen and I worshipped there yesterday, 'When our memories of past accomplishments are larger than our dreams and plans for the future, we have begun to die.'
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Wednesday, October 01, 2008
MARRIAGE THOUGHTS
I am officiating a wedding this weekend. Some thoughts have been rolling around in my head about what needs to be said:
1. Leaving home is required of both husband and wife. This means a change in relationship to parents. Now the relationship to parents has to be subordinate to the marriage relationship. In many cases the bonds to parents are still very strong, but they cannot be allowed to undermine the marriage relationship. Make sure you have truly left home! "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I thought like a child and I reasoned as a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways" (I Corinthians 13:11).
2. Marriage is a Divine institution. Thus, it is a matter of faith, and is a statement of our faith in God. Being a Divine institution, marriage is what God says it is, not what any executive, legislator or court says it is. By the power invested in me by God and recognized by the state, I pronounce you husband and wife.
3. The seeds of destruction are found in every relationship. Even if a couple has all of Neil Clark Warren's 29 dimensions of compatibility there is not a guarantee of a successful marriage. Those seeds of destruction must be weeded out when they begin to sprout and grow. How can these weeds be recognized? By understanding what love is and what love isn't: "Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in the wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. . ." (I Corinthians 13:4-8a). Weed out the things that are not consistent with love!
These thoughts are not posted in the order what the ceremony will be, but I believe them important enough to be included in the ceremony
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, September 29, 2008
MAKING PLANS?
"Instead, you ought to say, 'If it is the Lord's will, we will live and do this or that'" (James 4:15).
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Friday, September 26, 2008
WHATS WITH AMERICAN JEWS?


"Israel is a country 50 miles wide and 300 miles long. Sixty percent of it is desert. Out of this they also want to carve out a home land for the Palestinian people. There are enemies on every side. The leader of Iran sees this time as the Apocalypse. Mutual Assured Destruction means nothing to him. Death in Holy War means going to heaven. Israel is too small to make a mistake because a mistake would mean its destruction! That is why we cannot second guess their efforts to secure their nation! "
It is interesting that the American Jewish Committee polled the Jews of America and found that only 3% of them were concerned about Israel--they were more concerned about the economy and health care (Jerusalem Post).
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Thursday, September 25, 2008
THE BLESSING OF SELF-SACRIFICE
My home church has a program for kids each Wednesday evening from 5:30 to 8. We start with play time for an hour. Then we have supper at 6:30. Then from 7 to 8 we have class time. Many of the children do not have good home structure, so we spend a considerable amount of time teaching them life skills. Our aim is also to teach them the Bible, the basis for faith and life skills.
I am so proud of our church people! Last night we had 75 kids, ages 3 through high school. We have 19 adults who volunteer their time, money and their willingness to deal with the stress of loving and teaching these kids. Of course, all of our helpers and teachers are blessed immeasurably--the hugs from the kids and the satisfaction of seeing changed-lives are such a treasure! If you are not involved in helping another, start now. You will be truly blessed!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
THANK YOU, LORD, FOR MY FRIENDS
"Thank You, Lord, for those who befriend me, who give me gentle nudges, engaging eyes, listening ears, and warm hands. Who remind me that at the fiber of Your Essence, You are revealed as a God of gentle nudges, engaging eyes, listening ears, and warm hands. Amen (A prayer by Virgil M. Fry).
Grace&Peace,
Tom
FRIENDSHIP
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, September 22, 2008
Saturday, September 20, 2008
A THOUGHT ABOUT TRANSFORMATION
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
SUFFERING NATURAL CONSEQUENCES IS IMPORTANT
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Monday, September 15, 2008
HELP! I'M LOSING MY FAITH
I am beginning a sermon series called, "Answers to Tough Questions." I have invited the members of my congregation to submit questions about matters of faith, life, discipleship, theology, ethics, love, marriage, family and college football--just kidding. I do not want to leave honest questions unanswered, from a biblical perspective.
First question: "How to answer some one when they tell you they are loosing their faith?"
These thoughts are just coming out of my mind as I begin to tackle this question. Serious structure will come later.
1. No one has perfect faith and it is natural for doubts to creep into the minds of even the most devout saints from time to time. This is true when life is going well.
2. When some one confesses that they are losing their faith, it could be that there is a lot more going on than just the confession. The loss of faith could well be a symptom of a past trauma, a heavy stress load, unresolved grief and anger. For the last 50 years of her life, Mother Teresa felt spiritually abandoned and cut off from God. She felt no Presence. She felt alone. That seems to be the common experience of those who work in difficult and traumatic situations. The Lord Jesus Christ himself cried out, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" The Psalmist questioned with tears, "How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me?" Within the pages of scripture these honest expressions of human emotional questioning are allowed. God understands! This honest portrayal of emotion, questioning and doubt by the most devout in the Bible is one of the reasons I believe that it is the Word of God. This questioning of faith is a common human experience. It is also why Christians need each other for prayer and support. In some situations there are no words that can be shared that will solve the problem, only Christian love that is shown will make the difference--that is why Christian fellowship is a necessity! **
3. Many are unbelievers because to be a believer means that they would have to change and they refuse to do that; "Israel has a chance to live, but is too foolish to take it--like a child about to be born, who refuses to come out of the womb" (Hosea 13:13 TEV). For this kind of person, a reasonable teaching of the truth of the Bible is what is required. "Faith comes by hearing, and what is heard by the preaching of Christ" (Romans 10:17).
Knowing the situation of the person who confesses they are losing their faith is the first step in answering him. In any case, he is a person who must be loved and prayed for.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
**I think it is important to add John 6:29 to this discussion: "Jesus answered them, 'This is the work of God, that you believe in him whom he has sent.'" We often under estimate how hard this work of belief is. If you read the context of this verse you will see that many who had followed Jesus because He could give them free food were now leaving Him. Doing God's work means believing in Jesus through extremely difficult times--times when believing doesn't seem to make sense.
Tuesday, September 09, 2008
ONE LIKE MOSES
Friday, September 05, 2008
LOVE INVENTORY, part 2
"Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. . ."
- I kick and slam doors when I am angry.
- I give the "silent-treatment" to those with whom I am angry for more than 6 hours.
- There are some people who have hurt me too much to forgive.
- I feel a twinge of delight and some self-satisfaction when I hear of the failures and difficulties of others.
- I treat others according to how I feel at the moment.
- Our country is "going to hell in a hand basket." There is nothing I can do.
- I am more courteous to strangers than I am to my own family.
- I have a pleasure, habit, hobby or addiction that I pay for at the expense of others.
- I avoid cooperation because I do not want others to benefit.
- I believe others succeed because they have special privileges and benefits.
- I look for ways in which I can help others.
- I have sufficient income to help meet the needs of those who depend on me.
- I am honest even if it hurts another.
- I am a good listener.
- I am always trying to become a better person.
- I am a persistent person in spite of great obstacles.
- I am an encourager.
- I criticize because it makes others better.
- I must protect those whom I love from the natural consequences of their actions.
- I am a suspicious person.
In light of 1 Corinthians 13, how would you respond to each of these statements? Are there any changes you need to make?
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Tuesday, September 02, 2008
THE LOVE INVENTORY
"Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. . ." (I Corinthians 13:4-8a).
In the assessment and diagnostic phase of a counseling relationship, the counselor has to arrive at an accurate understanding of the client. Different kinds of assessment tools are used to accomplish this. One of them is the "Love Inventory" that comes directly from the Bible; fifteen different love indicators are listed in this inventory by which the presence or absence of love can be recognized.
- Patience with people. It is important to be patient with circumstances, but even more so with people. According to Barclay, the word that is translated "patient" here always has to do with patience with people in the New Testament.
- Kindness. It is slow to anger, rather it returns a kind spirit.
- No envy or jealousy. One who loves is not made unhappy by the good fortune of another.
- Does not brag, not boasting of superiority over another.
- Love is not proud or arrogant so that humble service is beneath his dignity. One who loves is always willing to serve.
- Love is not rude, says the New International version. Love is always courteous and charismatic.
- Love is not self-seeking or selfish, insisting on his own rights and privileges. Thus, love recognizes his responsibilities and is willing to sacrifice for others.
- Love does not fly into a rage! Lovers work on anger management.
- Love keeps no record of wrongs. Relationships cannot heal if the past cannot be put away.*
- Love does not delight in the failure of anyone, but it does rejoice in the truth of Love's triumphs.
- Love is not overcome, bearing up through any situation, protecting those in need.
- Love is not suspicious. It brings out the best in people when they are trusted.*
- Love never loses hope. People who love are people with positive attitudes even in the face of overwhelming odds against them.
- Love always perseveres, patiently enduring very difficult times.
- Love never fails, that means that it is eternal--it doesn't come and go.
It is humbling for me to take the Bible's love inventory and become aware of how much growing I have yet to do in love. I hope it helped you too!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
*By necessity, empathy and compassion fit in here. Empathy risks coming into understanding distance to show compassion. It is necessary that a person be understood so that they can be helped in the way that is best for everyone. It is completely irresponsible to take the word of an addict or criminal at face value--it will not help him or those close to him. Empathy involves having a true understanding so that the best possible solution can be worked out.
Monday, September 01, 2008
ADDENDUM TO THE BLESSINGS OF WORK
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Friday, August 29, 2008
BREAKING NEWS
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
THE BLESSING OF WORK
"Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest labor with his hands, so that he may have something to give to those in need" (Ephesians 4:28).
"For even when we were with you, we gave you this command: 'If any one will not work, let him not eat'" (2 Thessalonians 3:10).
"They all worked until they died. That after all is the final test of the degree of interest in one's work. Professor Hans Virchow once said to me while I was laboring with an exasperating lymph-vessal injection: 'He who has never shed tears over his work does not know what it is to try'" (Dr. Arthur E. Hertzler speaking of his professors in medical school in Berlin, Germany. Hertzler practiced medicine on the Kansas frontier in the 19th and early 20th centuries.).
"A friend once found De Condoyle the great anthropologist hard at work late at night. This friend remarked that he must love his science to be working so late--the professor was then eighty years of age. 'No,' replied the old scientist; 'it is not love of science that drives me. It is to drown my grief'"(Dr. Arthur E. Hetzler).
The necessity of work is reality. The nobility of work is determined by the attitude that is brought to it. Indeed, many work harder at avoiding work than actually doing the tasks that are required of them to do because the tasks are unpleasant and disagreeable to them. I have seen active people busily avoiding the real work that needed to be done. It should be noted that work did not become toilsome and tedious until sin entered the world. It is our sinful attitudes that contribute the most to making our work seem unpleasant. Certainly, painful physical conditions play their part in all this, but they can be battled through if one views her work as a high-calling.
And, even very lowly work is a high-calling if it is done for the Lord. There is no honest work that is demeaning!
Every human being has three needs which must be met or he or she will have problems. These needs are: to love, to be loved and to do something worthwhile. That there is a considerable amount of over-lap between loving and doing something worthwhile is admitted, but try living life without doing something worthwhile and you set yourself up for a major loss of self-esteem and the addition of some diagnosable mental health disorder. People feel better about themselves if they do honest labor; they are not only blessing themselves, but those around them too.
One of the blessings of work is that it is a distraction from heart-ache and grief. Grief never goes away until we make it to heaven and Jesus wipes every tear from our eyes. But, four things help us to bear our grief on this earth: our Faith, the fellowship of our friends and family, our tears and our work. Sweating-hard work offers a respite from the gnawing pain of grief and loss. Too much time alone in introspection increases the pain, making it much harder to bear.
So, thank God that you have work to do and get to it!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Saturday, August 23, 2008
HE SHALL BE CALLED A NAZARENE
Friday, August 22, 2008
THE LIES WE BELIEVE ABOUT MARRIAGE
In honor of 38 years of marriage to my wife, the lovely and gracious Helen, I am writing about the lies we believe about marriage.* In our humanity, we have all believed at least one, if not all, of them.
1. The purpose of marriage is our personal happiness. In our culture, personal happiness trumps everything else on the list for determining worth; "If it doesn't make me happy, it isn't worth it." But the purpose of marriage is not for our personal happiness, it is for oneness. Oneness is getting past your own egotism. Marriage is the opposite of self-centered conceit, you can't even have a true friendship without getting past your narcissism, rather, it is giving up of your self to the other. Thus, there are sacrifices, disappointments and heartaches that are inevitably involved with oneness; without them oneness cannot be achieved. The great reward for oneness is to be able to look back on many years of life working and playing with an unfailing friend and finding joy in a life shared together. The memories of conquering difficulties, finding forgiveness in failures, investing in children and keeping the Faith all bring a abiding sense of joy and gratitude.
2. Love is what holds a marriage together. One of the questions I ask a couple when they first come for premarital counseling, "Why do you want to get married?" Almost always, they will answer, "Because we love each other." Well, as doctor Laura often says, "Love isn't enough." The truth is that love will wax and wane in a marriage. At times it will seem as if it is absent altogether. If a couple vows to stay together as long as love shall last, they really have vowed nothing; marriage has become as disposable as paper plates used at the reception. Actually, romantic love is an emotion and is tied to how we are thinking of the marriage. What we are thinking about the marriage frequently changes.
Marriage is a faith commitment, a commitment made before God. Marriage is not just a commitment made to each other, it is one made to God, who is the author of marriage. It is a relationship in which the most mature kind of love can grow, "Love is patient, love is kind . . ." (I Corinthians 13:4).
3. The goal of marriage is fulfillment of the individual. How could single people ever find fulfillment if marriage is the necessary way to find it? There are singles out there who have fulfilling lives; I know several. Rather, the successful marriage requires an abandonment so complete that we give up ourselves to the other. That is what is involved in making a covenant with another. It isn't merely a contract between equals, but a treaty of surrender of two sovereigns to each other.
At one time or another, I believed every one of those lies and our marriage suffered for it. I'm glad that God gave me an understanding and forgiving wife!
Grace&Peace,
Tom
*These thoughts are adapted from an article in "Christian Counseling Today" by James Mcmahon and Michael Mcmanus.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
CITY OF DAVID
Sunday, August 17, 2008
JESUS' BAPTISM IN THE PROPHETS?
Saturday, August 09, 2008
MY TWO UNCLES: THE MALE BIOLOGICAL CLOCK
Women know that they have a biological clock. By the time they are in their 30's the bio ticking gets louder and louder. There is a lot of psychology connected with the feminine biological clock.
But, is there a male biological clock? Yes, but what guy is checking the time? Guys assume that they will always make sperm so, what is the hurry? What is important for guys to know is that, from a fertility and health perspective, having children is for the young. The biological material is just better. After 35 deterioration is beginning to set in. Men 40 and over are nearly 6 times more likely to have offspring with autism than men younger than 30.** By age 60, 85% of sperm is clinically abnormal. Increased age in the father increases the risk of schizophrenia in the children.
I have 2 uncles in my family history, one on my dad's side and one on my mother's side. Both of these uncles did not marry until they were 40 years old. One uncle fathered 4 children who grew up to be responsible, well-functioning adults. The other uncle fathered 3 children, 2 of them grew up to be good citizens, Christians and parents. The oldest child of the second uncle developed normally. He was a good student and was dedicated as a Christian too. During his college years he developed schizophrenia. This mental illness led to his tragic death and was the cause of a great deal of anguish for the family too.
Would this have happened had my second uncle fathered children earlier in life? We cannot know for sure, but if there is a question about the timing of having children, put the odds in your favor and do it sooner rather than later.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
*James Michener said in "The Source" that the verse meant that Moses was good in bed at 120 years old. I doubt that he took any supplements either, but then all his food was organic.
**Statistics came from an article in "Psychology Today" called "A Man's Shelf Life," by Mark Teich. I had read similar statistics in other publications on this subject so it seemed like they were credible.
Wednesday, August 06, 2008
BETHLEHEM IN PROPHECY
Tuesday, August 05, 2008
WORD PICTURES OF TRUST
"One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time" (Andre Gide).
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
THE TIME IS FULFILLED
Monday, July 28, 2008
ENTROPY HAPPENS
Entropy is a scientific word. It defines the inevitable movement from order to disorder. It defines the movement of all matter and all energy as it moves toward a state of inert uniformity. It defines the loss of information in a transmitted message, and the inevitable and steady deterioration of a system or a society.
There is entropy in every human relationship. Every relationship will come apart unless something holds it together. It takes commitment. It takes love. It takes faith, and it takes energy! That means, husbands, that you need to give your marriage some extra attention--give your wife some flowers! And when she says, "Oh, flowers again," you might have to give her a new house. If all of that fails, you might try listening to her to find out what she is really saying. Listening is work. It takes effort, but it is the best gift we can give to our wives, or to anyone.
The good news about the entropy that is always present in a relationship is that it can be reversed, but it takes energy guided by Wisdom and Love to do it. That is what is meant by "redeeming the time." Redeeming has to do with buying. The Bible says we must invest our time and ourselves to renew relationships, and to make new ones, in these present evil and entropic days. As Christian people, we have a decision to make. Will we just let entropy happen? Or, will we embrace the One who can reverse entropy and walk with Him and be like Him? "He is before all things and in Him all things hold together" (Colossians 1:17).
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Friday, July 25, 2008
SIMEON'S PRAYER

"Sovereign Lord, as you have promised, you now dismiss your servant in peace. For my eyes have seen your salvation, which you have prepared in the sight of all people, a light for revelation to the Gentiles and for glory to your people Israel" (Words of the aged Simeon who wanted to see the Messiah before he died. Luke 2:29-32).
Monday, July 21, 2008
SEEN ANY FAMILIAR HANDS LATELY?
As we were closing our family reunion and saying our "good-byes" my cousin shared with me a comment that her 30-something-year-old daughters made about me. She said, "hold out your hands." So I did. Then she said, "look at them," which I did with a puzzled look on my face. She said, "My daughters noticed the resemblance of your hands to my dad's hands. The way they are freckled is the same and your fingers are the same. Wow! My cousin's dad, my uncle, has been dead for about 10 years. It is so interesting to me that these adult women, even after 10 years, would recognize the similarity of my hands to their grampa's hands. I knew my uncle Harold well. The only way he would have used those hands would have been in a loving and helping way. To me it is an honor to have hands that look like my uncle's.
Noticing hands--is that a female thing? I think so. I think this little story says something about the importance of dad's and grampa's in the lives of their little girls.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
PS: I promise, I will write more about prophecy this week.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
IN THE LIGHT OF PROPHECY
I am not doing too well with my writing. Even this little blurb will be short because it has been a looong day. Helen and I have had the blessing of spending a lot of time with our grandchildren during the last couple of weeks, and now during this week we have two of them, Alex and Samantha all to our selves. On top of that, we are watching our grand dog, Barkley, a six-month old rat terrier. I, of course, have a farm to run and people to pastor so I should try to do some actual work once in a while. The Fredenberg reunion, my mom's side of the family, is this weekend. Helen and I have a lot to do to host that too. So it is a very busy time. My mind has been tired and numb--I just haven't felt like writing. I do want to write a little now to get you faithful readers set up for next week.
How do we know a thing to be true? The scientific method has reigned supreme in finding and verifying truth in the physical universe. The historical method is used to find the truth about the happenings of human events. One of the legitimate ways of knowing is Biblical revelation. Revelation is information that we could not know unless God revealed it. There are times when it appears that the Bible is at odds with science or with history. When that is the case, I stand with the Bible because neither the scientific method or the historical method have been perfect in the quest for truth.
One of the hallmarks of Biblical revelation is predictive prophecy. About 29 per cent of the Old Testament and 22 per cent of the New Testament is predictive prophecy. That is the subject I would like to discuss over the next 2-3 posts starting next week.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
Saturday, July 12, 2008
BACK FROM VACATION
I'm back, but not quite ready to start writing. My family and I have been on vacation. My mind is still there and that is death for my writing, but it was great for our family. We were all together at Rebecca's house in California. The grandchildren are growing so fast! That is why it is important for us all to be together at once. The kids need to understand the family, its beliefs, values, priorities and traditions so that they will be better able to know who they are as they build relationships with those outside of the family.
Hopefully, next week I will be writing something prophetic.
Grace&Peace,
Tom