He who commits adultery has no sense; he who does it destroys himself. Wounds and dishonor will he get, and his disgrace will not be wiped away (Proverbs 6:32-33).
Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all" (Proverbs 31:28-29).
I recently received the news that a young wife, whom I know, walked away from her husband and children. It set me to thinking about how many times this has happened in my ministry experience. Though conventional wisdom gives men get the credit for being the most unfaithful to their wives and children, my ministry and counseling experience does not validate it. I can honestly say that for every man who has abdicated his responsibilities as a husband and a father for another woman, there has been a woman who abdicated her responsibilities as a wife and a mother for another man--if not more so.
A mother's love requires character, strength and dignity. Mother's-Day sermons have long extolled the natural love of a mother for her children, but the truth is that mothers can abandon their children as easily as men; women are just as depraved as men. Being a good wife and mother begins with faith in God, trusting Him, that His way is good, and trusting Him for the strength and courage that her marriage and family demands. Reading all of Proverbs 31:10-31 is a good place to begin.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
*The rate of infidelity in the work place is very high, about 47% according to some sources. The natural boundaries between men and women these days are few, so it is a matter of faith, character and prayer that keeps one faithful in the work place.
Friday, August 17, 2012
Friday, August 10, 2012
THE SLIDE TO PERDITION
You shall not give any of your children to devote them by fire to molech, and so profane the name of your God: I am the Lord (Leviticus 18:21).
One of the gods specifically named by God that was not to be worshipped was molech; though it is a proper name, I refuse to capitalize it. It was believed by the pagans of ancient times that, if a family's first-born was sacrificed to molech, the nation and the family would have peace and prosperity. The image of molech was a hollow metal man in which a fire was built. When the "god" was red-hot the baby would be placed on its firery arms and be burned to death, surrounded by dancing worshippers.
I'm not an Old Testament prophet, but sometimes I certainly would like to be. God, through the prophets, pronounced judgment, justice, death, and captivity on His people because of their infidelity to Him when they worshipped molech and the other gods. Are we any better, aborting our most innocent in the name of personal peace and prosperity?
Not only are we killing the defenseless, but there is general corruption that is spread through every level of society. The very rich are able to take advantage of every loop-hole and insider-trading opportunity, stealing from every tax-payer and share-holder. The middle class values of self reliance and personal responsibility are rejected for the entitlement mentality and declining labor-force participation. Our welfare system has incentivized people not to marry, for children to be born out of wedlock and has created a class of people whose purpose in life is to get the most from the public trough for the least. Cases of public employee pension padding are rampant. This kind of society cannot be sustained economically and will inevitably collapse.
The laws of God cannot be violated with impunity, over the long term, without reaping the natural consequences of our behavior. We have worshipped the gods of pleasure, personal peace and prosperity and will reap poverty, sorrow, and perhaps, slavery. I know these are not encouraging words, but I do believe the momentum of our slide to Perdition cannot be stopped apart from an act of God.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
One of the gods specifically named by God that was not to be worshipped was molech; though it is a proper name, I refuse to capitalize it. It was believed by the pagans of ancient times that, if a family's first-born was sacrificed to molech, the nation and the family would have peace and prosperity. The image of molech was a hollow metal man in which a fire was built. When the "god" was red-hot the baby would be placed on its firery arms and be burned to death, surrounded by dancing worshippers.
I'm not an Old Testament prophet, but sometimes I certainly would like to be. God, through the prophets, pronounced judgment, justice, death, and captivity on His people because of their infidelity to Him when they worshipped molech and the other gods. Are we any better, aborting our most innocent in the name of personal peace and prosperity?
Not only are we killing the defenseless, but there is general corruption that is spread through every level of society. The very rich are able to take advantage of every loop-hole and insider-trading opportunity, stealing from every tax-payer and share-holder. The middle class values of self reliance and personal responsibility are rejected for the entitlement mentality and declining labor-force participation. Our welfare system has incentivized people not to marry, for children to be born out of wedlock and has created a class of people whose purpose in life is to get the most from the public trough for the least. Cases of public employee pension padding are rampant. This kind of society cannot be sustained economically and will inevitably collapse.
The laws of God cannot be violated with impunity, over the long term, without reaping the natural consequences of our behavior. We have worshipped the gods of pleasure, personal peace and prosperity and will reap poverty, sorrow, and perhaps, slavery. I know these are not encouraging words, but I do believe the momentum of our slide to Perdition cannot be stopped apart from an act of God.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
THE WATCHMAN
So you, son of man, I have made a watchman for the house of Israel . . . (Ezekiel 33:7).
But if the watchman sees the sword coming and does not blow the trumpet so that the people are not warned, and the sword comes, and takes any one of them; that man is taken in his iniquity, but his blood I will require at the watchman's hand (33:6).
And just as it is appointed for men to die once, and after that comes judgment, so Christ, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time, not to deal with sin but to save those who are eagerly waiting for him (Hebrews 9:27-28).
It is certainly a Biblical principle that those who know of danger are required to warn those who are ignorant of it. After the warning has been given, it is for each individual to decide what he will do with the warning; whether to heed it or disregard it. If the warning is disregarded, at the very least, the blood of the warned will not be required of the watchman.
A Christian does not need to be an expert on the "end times" to know that judgement is certainly coming--it begins at our personal death. One of the reasons the gospel of Jesus Christ is good news is that it is only through Him that we will find commendation rather than condemnation in judgement and escape eternal destruction.
One of the responsibilities of each Christian is to be a watchman. Christians tend to talk so much of God's love that they do not speak much of God's justice. We know, of course, that there is no love if there is no justice and justice requires judgment.
Are you being faithful as a watchman? When we were vacationing in Keystone, South Dakota, some Christians had placed on a billboard a verse from the prophet Amos, PREPARE TO MEET THY GOD (4:12). Many people were seeing it--I wonder how many were heeding it and making preparations. Perhaps you could do something like the Christians of Keystone.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
But if the watchman sees the sword coming and does not blow the trumpet so that the people are not warned, and the sword comes, and takes any one of them; that man is taken in his iniquity, but his blood I will require at the watchman's hand (33:6).
And just as it is appointed for men to die once, and after that comes judgment, so Christ, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time, not to deal with sin but to save those who are eagerly waiting for him (Hebrews 9:27-28).
It is certainly a Biblical principle that those who know of danger are required to warn those who are ignorant of it. After the warning has been given, it is for each individual to decide what he will do with the warning; whether to heed it or disregard it. If the warning is disregarded, at the very least, the blood of the warned will not be required of the watchman.
A Christian does not need to be an expert on the "end times" to know that judgement is certainly coming--it begins at our personal death. One of the reasons the gospel of Jesus Christ is good news is that it is only through Him that we will find commendation rather than condemnation in judgement and escape eternal destruction.
One of the responsibilities of each Christian is to be a watchman. Christians tend to talk so much of God's love that they do not speak much of God's justice. We know, of course, that there is no love if there is no justice and justice requires judgment.
Are you being faithful as a watchman? When we were vacationing in Keystone, South Dakota, some Christians had placed on a billboard a verse from the prophet Amos, PREPARE TO MEET THY GOD (4:12). Many people were seeing it--I wonder how many were heeding it and making preparations. Perhaps you could do something like the Christians of Keystone.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Sunday, July 22, 2012
SUCK IT UP!
Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed (Hebrews 12:12-13).
There are times in this life when things do not go right, and one does not feel good. When that is happening to you, just suck it up and just do it--do the right thing. Stop whining, complaining and blaming and do the right thing. The Hebrew Christians were being persecuted and the author of Hebrews had to remind them of their responsibility to remain faithful. Sometimes we need to be reminded too, so suck it up!
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
There are times in this life when things do not go right, and one does not feel good. When that is happening to you, just suck it up and just do it--do the right thing. Stop whining, complaining and blaming and do the right thing. The Hebrew Christians were being persecuted and the author of Hebrews had to remind them of their responsibility to remain faithful. Sometimes we need to be reminded too, so suck it up!
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Friday, July 20, 2012
HOME FROM VACATION
The apostles returned to Jesus, and told him all that they had done and taught. And he said to them, "Come away by yourselves to a lonely place, and rest a while." For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat (Mark 6:30-31).
Every year Helen and I attempt to have a family vacation, but with busy and conflicting schedules, only son Tom and his family, wife Suzi, grandson, Alex and granddaughter, Samantha could go with us. We rented a cabin near Terry Peak, in the Black Hills, for our "home base" during the week; the temperatures are much more mild at 7,000 feet.
Though we have vacationed in the Black Hills of South Dakota several times, it is always inspiring to see the great stone faces. They certainly cause one to reflect on the values upon which our great country is founded. We also visited the Black Hills of Wyoming, they are not all in South Dakota, and drove on to see the Devil's Tower. The geological formations in the Black Hills area are inspiring too, turning one's mind to God's providence as He formed, and is forming, the earth.
Any thoughtful tourist cannot escape the unjust treatment of the Native Americans because the white man wanted their lands and the gold. Reminders are everywhere. That being said, I do not know how it could have been different. When one culture invades another, there will be injustice and people will die--that is the sad verdict of history. Greed and lawlessness always seem to overcome the rule of law--at least until the Lord returns. As a result of being in the Black Hills, I bought a book called KILLING CUSTER, by James Welch. It is a history of Custer's last stand, the battle of the Little Bighorn and the fate of the plains Indians. I am about midway through the reading of the book.
It was a great vacation. Long hikes and good conversation are good for the body and soul. Seeing sights and visiting attractions are tough on the budget, but even the Lord thought that it is good to get away for a while. I hope you can have a good vacation too.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Every year Helen and I attempt to have a family vacation, but with busy and conflicting schedules, only son Tom and his family, wife Suzi, grandson, Alex and granddaughter, Samantha could go with us. We rented a cabin near Terry Peak, in the Black Hills, for our "home base" during the week; the temperatures are much more mild at 7,000 feet.
Though we have vacationed in the Black Hills of South Dakota several times, it is always inspiring to see the great stone faces. They certainly cause one to reflect on the values upon which our great country is founded. We also visited the Black Hills of Wyoming, they are not all in South Dakota, and drove on to see the Devil's Tower. The geological formations in the Black Hills area are inspiring too, turning one's mind to God's providence as He formed, and is forming, the earth.
Any thoughtful tourist cannot escape the unjust treatment of the Native Americans because the white man wanted their lands and the gold. Reminders are everywhere. That being said, I do not know how it could have been different. When one culture invades another, there will be injustice and people will die--that is the sad verdict of history. Greed and lawlessness always seem to overcome the rule of law--at least until the Lord returns. As a result of being in the Black Hills, I bought a book called KILLING CUSTER, by James Welch. It is a history of Custer's last stand, the battle of the Little Bighorn and the fate of the plains Indians. I am about midway through the reading of the book.
It was a great vacation. Long hikes and good conversation are good for the body and soul. Seeing sights and visiting attractions are tough on the budget, but even the Lord thought that it is good to get away for a while. I hope you can have a good vacation too.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Saturday, July 07, 2012
USE THE BIBLE REDEMPTIVELY, NOT LEGALISTICALLY
For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not perish but may have eternal life. Indeed, God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him (John 3:16-17).
These are some of the most well-known Scripture verses in the Bible, and arguably, could be the most profound, though the message is easily understood. The God of the Bible is not a god who rejoices in the condemnation of anyone. He is not a legalist looking for the tiniest infraction of the law so that someone can be condemned to eternal punishment. Rather, God's purpose is to free us, to heal us, to pardon us, to forgive us. This he has done through the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ and the ministry of Holy Spirit.
If John 3:16-17 indicates why Jesus came, shouldn't it follow that this is the way Scripture should be used as we minister to people? It is not our purpose to condemn people with Scripture, but to bring them to health and wholeness.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
These are some of the most well-known Scripture verses in the Bible, and arguably, could be the most profound, though the message is easily understood. The God of the Bible is not a god who rejoices in the condemnation of anyone. He is not a legalist looking for the tiniest infraction of the law so that someone can be condemned to eternal punishment. Rather, God's purpose is to free us, to heal us, to pardon us, to forgive us. This he has done through the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ and the ministry of Holy Spirit.
If John 3:16-17 indicates why Jesus came, shouldn't it follow that this is the way Scripture should be used as we minister to people? It is not our purpose to condemn people with Scripture, but to bring them to health and wholeness.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
Friday, June 29, 2012
TURNING ON, PLUGGING INTO, TAPPING INTO OR FLIPPING THE SWITCH TO TURN ON THE HOLY SPIRIT
But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you . . . (Acts 1:8).
Now when Simon say that the Spirit was given through the laying on of the Apostles hands, he offered them money . . . (Acts 8: 18).
And we all with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being changed into his likeness from one degree of glory to another; for this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit ( II Corinthians 3:18).
This last week, the lovely and gracious Helen and I had occasion to go to the Christian bookstore in Sioux City. While browsing the book shelves, I read a book title, "How to Tap into the Power of the Holy Spirit." I have read that phrase and heard it by radio and TV evangelists so much that it made me want to throw up. The book lost all credibility with me just in the title!
The Christian sensationalist preachers and teachers want you to believe that the power of the Holy Spirit is available on command. They are the modern-day simonists who seek to profit from the Holy Spirit's power by implying that the right technique will connect you to Holy Spirit's power--turn on the right switch and Holy Spirit's power is yours. Peter would tell them just as he told Simon, Your silver perish with you, because you thought you could obtain the gift of God with money! You have neither part nor lot in this matter, for you heart is not right before God (Acts 8: 20-21).
The promise of God in his word is that when a person comes to faith in Christ and is baptized (Acts 2:38), not only would that person's sins be forgiven, but he would receive Holy Spirit as an indwelling presence. This presence of the Spirit needs no tapping into or turning on. It is simply a matter of relationship with God. If we are in Christ, we can expect Holy Spirit to be working in our lives changing us to become more and more like Christ.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Now when Simon say that the Spirit was given through the laying on of the Apostles hands, he offered them money . . . (Acts 8: 18).
And we all with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being changed into his likeness from one degree of glory to another; for this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit ( II Corinthians 3:18).
This last week, the lovely and gracious Helen and I had occasion to go to the Christian bookstore in Sioux City. While browsing the book shelves, I read a book title, "How to Tap into the Power of the Holy Spirit." I have read that phrase and heard it by radio and TV evangelists so much that it made me want to throw up. The book lost all credibility with me just in the title!
The Christian sensationalist preachers and teachers want you to believe that the power of the Holy Spirit is available on command. They are the modern-day simonists who seek to profit from the Holy Spirit's power by implying that the right technique will connect you to Holy Spirit's power--turn on the right switch and Holy Spirit's power is yours. Peter would tell them just as he told Simon, Your silver perish with you, because you thought you could obtain the gift of God with money! You have neither part nor lot in this matter, for you heart is not right before God (Acts 8: 20-21).
The promise of God in his word is that when a person comes to faith in Christ and is baptized (Acts 2:38), not only would that person's sins be forgiven, but he would receive Holy Spirit as an indwelling presence. This presence of the Spirit needs no tapping into or turning on. It is simply a matter of relationship with God. If we are in Christ, we can expect Holy Spirit to be working in our lives changing us to become more and more like Christ.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Sunday, June 24, 2012
IS CHURCH A SAFE PLACE?
Come to me all who labor and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).
The lovely and gracious Helen and I spent last week at Christian Service camp as dorm parents to 5th and 6th grade, 11 and 12 year old, girls and boys. It is our short-term mission that we do each year. The boys come from all different kinds of homes, some from highly functioning Christian homes to homes where there is abuse, addictions and divorce. So, our last night of the week, one of the boys came to me, telling me that he wished camp was not nearly over because, he said, "I feel safe here." As we talked together, abuse at home was not indicated. But, this set me to thinking about church being a safe place. Providing a safe place for change is essential as people make themselves vulnerable to the life-changing power of God through Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit.
God is not safe, He is dangerous, calling us to do things that we had never imagined ourselves doing. Loving our enemies, selling our fortunes and following Jesus, going to far-away lands to take the gospel, serving as a medical missionary, apologizing to a bitter foe, teaching 5th and 6th graders, etc. Talk about danger and adventure! Being a Christian is both safe and dangerous. Are you ready for the challenge?
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
The lovely and gracious Helen and I spent last week at Christian Service camp as dorm parents to 5th and 6th grade, 11 and 12 year old, girls and boys. It is our short-term mission that we do each year. The boys come from all different kinds of homes, some from highly functioning Christian homes to homes where there is abuse, addictions and divorce. So, our last night of the week, one of the boys came to me, telling me that he wished camp was not nearly over because, he said, "I feel safe here." As we talked together, abuse at home was not indicated. But, this set me to thinking about church being a safe place. Providing a safe place for change is essential as people make themselves vulnerable to the life-changing power of God through Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit.
God is not safe, He is dangerous, calling us to do things that we had never imagined ourselves doing. Loving our enemies, selling our fortunes and following Jesus, going to far-away lands to take the gospel, serving as a medical missionary, apologizing to a bitter foe, teaching 5th and 6th graders, etc. Talk about danger and adventure! Being a Christian is both safe and dangerous. Are you ready for the challenge?
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Thursday, June 14, 2012
AUTUMN LIGHT
Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, "I am the light of the world; he who follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life" (John 8:12).
Summer has only just begun and yet I am already writing about autumn. What triggered my thinking about autumn was when I was scouting my crops I was imagining what they would look like when September comes. September and October are the most beautiful months of the year. The maturity of the crops, the changing of colors, but to me, the quality of the sunlight changes too, the sunlight is more golden. That has to do with the tilt of the earth towards the sun, I suppose, but it seems to me that autumn light has a quality that is not duplicated by any other season of the year. Autumn light is the most beautiful light.
Then my thoughts turned to the seasons of life. I am past the mid-point of my life expectancy, being officially a senior citizen, I am in the "autumn" of my life. The light of our world is filtered through past experiences and relationships that tend to add color to that light. The light of the seniors world can be harsh and bitter or it can be golden and peaceful, it depends on the eyes. The eyes of faith make all the difference in how one sees the light: "The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is sound, your whole body will be full of light; but if your eye is not sound, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness" (Matthew 6:22,23).
Through what kind of eyes are you viewing the world? Faith in Christ, or belief in something else? Don't miss the autumn light.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Summer has only just begun and yet I am already writing about autumn. What triggered my thinking about autumn was when I was scouting my crops I was imagining what they would look like when September comes. September and October are the most beautiful months of the year. The maturity of the crops, the changing of colors, but to me, the quality of the sunlight changes too, the sunlight is more golden. That has to do with the tilt of the earth towards the sun, I suppose, but it seems to me that autumn light has a quality that is not duplicated by any other season of the year. Autumn light is the most beautiful light.
Then my thoughts turned to the seasons of life. I am past the mid-point of my life expectancy, being officially a senior citizen, I am in the "autumn" of my life. The light of our world is filtered through past experiences and relationships that tend to add color to that light. The light of the seniors world can be harsh and bitter or it can be golden and peaceful, it depends on the eyes. The eyes of faith make all the difference in how one sees the light: "The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is sound, your whole body will be full of light; but if your eye is not sound, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness" (Matthew 6:22,23).
Through what kind of eyes are you viewing the world? Faith in Christ, or belief in something else? Don't miss the autumn light.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Thursday, June 07, 2012
YOU CANNOT DRAW ON RESOURCES YOU DO NOT HAVE
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be mad know to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).
In the May/June issue of Psychology Today, in an interview with psychologist, David Schnarch, writer Pamela Weintraub reports: And when you become your own person within a relationship, you leave room for someone else to do the same. Instead of depending on a partner to help you manage your own feelings and maintain your equilibrium, you are free to be with your partner. "You can offer your partner a hand instead of just your needs." Schnarch goes on to emphasize, You have to learn to sooth your own discomfort, regulate your own emotions, and pursue your own goals. To stop being a drain on your partner and to handle problems on your own.
I liked the article and would recommend its reading, nevertheless, as a Bowenist*, Dr. Schnarch should understand that learning to sooth one's own discomforts is almost impossible. I know that skills can be taught, but when stress levels increase, people will return to their old selves. One cannot draw on resources he does not have. That is the problem with a lot of approaches to therapy, people are asked to draw on resources they do not have. Purpose and meaning cannot be drawn out of thin air. Soothing one's own anxieties demands resources that one cannot generate within himself when stress becomes unbearable.
Generally, psychologists do not regard faith as being a legitimate approach to therapy, but trusting in God has helped many, many people deal with difficult marriages, anxiety, depression and addictions. God is the source of the resources needed to sooth your own feelings and maintain your equilibrium so that you can be the kind of marriage partner who can help your spouse grow and your marriage flourish.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
*I respect Dr. Bowen's work, but as an atheist, ultimately, he does leave those with a lot of undifferentiated ego mass without any real resources to deal with their problems. Bowen does, for me, provide a good lense through which to diagnose and even to design treatment, but there has to be a resource from which strength is drawn, otherwise during periods of high stress a person will revert to his original condition.
In the May/June issue of Psychology Today, in an interview with psychologist, David Schnarch, writer Pamela Weintraub reports: And when you become your own person within a relationship, you leave room for someone else to do the same. Instead of depending on a partner to help you manage your own feelings and maintain your equilibrium, you are free to be with your partner. "You can offer your partner a hand instead of just your needs." Schnarch goes on to emphasize, You have to learn to sooth your own discomfort, regulate your own emotions, and pursue your own goals. To stop being a drain on your partner and to handle problems on your own.
I liked the article and would recommend its reading, nevertheless, as a Bowenist*, Dr. Schnarch should understand that learning to sooth one's own discomforts is almost impossible. I know that skills can be taught, but when stress levels increase, people will return to their old selves. One cannot draw on resources he does not have. That is the problem with a lot of approaches to therapy, people are asked to draw on resources they do not have. Purpose and meaning cannot be drawn out of thin air. Soothing one's own anxieties demands resources that one cannot generate within himself when stress becomes unbearable.
Generally, psychologists do not regard faith as being a legitimate approach to therapy, but trusting in God has helped many, many people deal with difficult marriages, anxiety, depression and addictions. God is the source of the resources needed to sooth your own feelings and maintain your equilibrium so that you can be the kind of marriage partner who can help your spouse grow and your marriage flourish.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
*I respect Dr. Bowen's work, but as an atheist, ultimately, he does leave those with a lot of undifferentiated ego mass without any real resources to deal with their problems. Bowen does, for me, provide a good lense through which to diagnose and even to design treatment, but there has to be a resource from which strength is drawn, otherwise during periods of high stress a person will revert to his original condition.
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
MARRIAGE REQUIRES ONE TO BECOME AN ADULT
To the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him . . . But if the unbelieving partner desires to separate, let it be so; in such case the brother or sister is not bound. For God has called us to peace(I Corinthians 7: 12-15).
A book could be written about these verses, but this is only a devotional, so I will only make one point: Marriage does require a person to become an adult. If a marriage is to succeed and flourish, each partner has to grow and mature. Successful people are not static, staying the same throughout their lives. It is inevitable that one of the partners will make the decision to grow. When one spouse hears the call of God to become an adult, the other spouse is faced with these choices: 1) to become an adult, too, 2) to live with it, facing the possibility of becoming an adult, him/her self, or 3) to sabotage the growth by threatening to leave, or some other means of causing trouble in the family relationship. The best way to help a marriage partner is not to surrender to the trouble, but to continue on the path of growing in faith, knowledge and personal responsibility. If a spouse refuses to come along, not much else can be done to help him or her to mature and he or she will continue to live as a child in a world that desperately needs adults.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
A book could be written about these verses, but this is only a devotional, so I will only make one point: Marriage does require a person to become an adult. If a marriage is to succeed and flourish, each partner has to grow and mature. Successful people are not static, staying the same throughout their lives. It is inevitable that one of the partners will make the decision to grow. When one spouse hears the call of God to become an adult, the other spouse is faced with these choices: 1) to become an adult, too, 2) to live with it, facing the possibility of becoming an adult, him/her self, or 3) to sabotage the growth by threatening to leave, or some other means of causing trouble in the family relationship. The best way to help a marriage partner is not to surrender to the trouble, but to continue on the path of growing in faith, knowledge and personal responsibility. If a spouse refuses to come along, not much else can be done to help him or her to mature and he or she will continue to live as a child in a world that desperately needs adults.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
PUNISHING YOURSELF FOR YOUR OWN SINS? (A Communion Meditation)
But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just, and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (I John 1:7-9).
I was randomly searching for a communion meditation thought when I found a blurb from an old issue of Psychology Today. The question was asked, "Does guilt cause people to punish themselves?" There definitely is a correlation between the emotion of guilt and cutting/self mutilation, binge eating, self-sabotage and even suicide.
Brock Bastian, a psychologist at the university of Queensland, used this test to research the question, Does guilt cause people to punish themselves? Dr. Bastian asked people if they had done something bad that made them feel guilty. He asked them to write about it. He asked each participant, if they felt guilty or not, to put their arm in ice water as long as they could stand it. Then they could pull their arm out.
This little test revealed that: 1) Those who felt guilty kept their arms in the ice water longer; 2) These same people rated the experience more painful, and 3) This experience of punishing one's self reduced the guilty person's perception of guilt.
What does this mean for communion? There is no self-punishment that can pay for our sins. Only the blood of Jesus can cleanse us. All the Lord requires is that sinful behavior be recognized and confessed, and it is forgiven; guilt is taken away. Do not think that because one has suffered because of his sinful behavior he is less guilty.
The Lord's Table is the family table for Christians to gather around, confessing their sins. They know that their guilt is taken away because of the ultimate gift of God in the sacrifice of his Son, Jesus Christ.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
*The book of I John was written to Christians; non Christians were not the primary audience.
I was randomly searching for a communion meditation thought when I found a blurb from an old issue of Psychology Today. The question was asked, "Does guilt cause people to punish themselves?" There definitely is a correlation between the emotion of guilt and cutting/self mutilation, binge eating, self-sabotage and even suicide.
Brock Bastian, a psychologist at the university of Queensland, used this test to research the question, Does guilt cause people to punish themselves? Dr. Bastian asked people if they had done something bad that made them feel guilty. He asked them to write about it. He asked each participant, if they felt guilty or not, to put their arm in ice water as long as they could stand it. Then they could pull their arm out.
This little test revealed that: 1) Those who felt guilty kept their arms in the ice water longer; 2) These same people rated the experience more painful, and 3) This experience of punishing one's self reduced the guilty person's perception of guilt.
What does this mean for communion? There is no self-punishment that can pay for our sins. Only the blood of Jesus can cleanse us. All the Lord requires is that sinful behavior be recognized and confessed, and it is forgiven; guilt is taken away. Do not think that because one has suffered because of his sinful behavior he is less guilty.
The Lord's Table is the family table for Christians to gather around, confessing their sins. They know that their guilt is taken away because of the ultimate gift of God in the sacrifice of his Son, Jesus Christ.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
*The book of I John was written to Christians; non Christians were not the primary audience.
Sunday, May 20, 2012
PONYSHO
Sing to the Lord, for he has triumphed gloriously; the horse and his rider he has thrown into the sea (Exodus 15:18).
I went and did it. I've always wanted to have a Mustang convertible with a V8 engine and some sweet sounding pipes, and it was like the Lord wanted me to have it too. I had noticed this car before, sitting on a used car dealers lot, but I could never justify spending the money to buy a big-boy toy to play with. I was returning from Helen's parent's house in Kansas, driving home alone. Driving through Lyndon, Kansas, I noticed that the Mustang convertible was still on the lot--a definite sign from God. Still, I never would have stopped to check it out if I would have had a passenger--another sign. I still drove past the used car lot, but I had this funny feeling in the pit of my stomach that I would regret not stopping to check it out--a third sign. So, I turned around and went back. The price on the care was about $1500 less than I expected--a 4th sign? So with all these signs, who was I to say "no" to the Lord? So, I bought the car, although I do not have it at home yet.
As a final note, the lovely and gracious Helen is OK with it, but I think it tested her a little. And really, I was just teasing about all the signs from the Lord--but I think He might be OK with it too. If I can make it work I will put up a picture of a Mustang exactly like the one I bought--I hope this doesn't turn out to be just another pony show.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
I went and did it. I've always wanted to have a Mustang convertible with a V8 engine and some sweet sounding pipes, and it was like the Lord wanted me to have it too. I had noticed this car before, sitting on a used car dealers lot, but I could never justify spending the money to buy a big-boy toy to play with. I was returning from Helen's parent's house in Kansas, driving home alone. Driving through Lyndon, Kansas, I noticed that the Mustang convertible was still on the lot--a definite sign from God. Still, I never would have stopped to check it out if I would have had a passenger--another sign. I still drove past the used car lot, but I had this funny feeling in the pit of my stomach that I would regret not stopping to check it out--a third sign. So, I turned around and went back. The price on the care was about $1500 less than I expected--a 4th sign? So with all these signs, who was I to say "no" to the Lord? So, I bought the car, although I do not have it at home yet.
As a final note, the lovely and gracious Helen is OK with it, but I think it tested her a little. And really, I was just teasing about all the signs from the Lord--but I think He might be OK with it too. If I can make it work I will put up a picture of a Mustang exactly like the one I bought--I hope this doesn't turn out to be just another pony show.
Our Father's Blessings,
Friday, May 11, 2012
IN SORROW, CHRISTIANS HAVE HOPE
But we would not have you ignorant, brethren, concerning those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again . . . (I Thessalonians 4:13-14a).
The lovely and gracious Helen's dad passed away this morning. Charles Huff's death is a great loss to the Tom Steele family. Of course, Helen's dad had a great deal to do with Helen being the kind of woman I would want to be my wife and the mother of our children. That fact alone made him an important man to me. He was a very important grandfather role model and mentor to our children. His influence was an important dynamic in the formation and function of our family; we will grieve his loss for quite sometime.
What I want each reader to understand is that in our family we believe that we have not seen the last of Charles Huff! If one has ever touched a corpse, to possess a hope that the dead person will ever be seen alive again is quite audacious, to say the least. Yet, based on the history of the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ, that is exactly what we believe. Death is only sleep when Jesus Christ is around. The Christian does not have to say, "Goodbye" to Charles, only, "So long, see you later."
Our Father's Love,
Tom
The lovely and gracious Helen's dad passed away this morning. Charles Huff's death is a great loss to the Tom Steele family. Of course, Helen's dad had a great deal to do with Helen being the kind of woman I would want to be my wife and the mother of our children. That fact alone made him an important man to me. He was a very important grandfather role model and mentor to our children. His influence was an important dynamic in the formation and function of our family; we will grieve his loss for quite sometime.
What I want each reader to understand is that in our family we believe that we have not seen the last of Charles Huff! If one has ever touched a corpse, to possess a hope that the dead person will ever be seen alive again is quite audacious, to say the least. Yet, based on the history of the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ, that is exactly what we believe. Death is only sleep when Jesus Christ is around. The Christian does not have to say, "Goodbye" to Charles, only, "So long, see you later."
Our Father's Love,
Tom
Monday, April 30, 2012
NEED A TOUCH?
When he came down from the mountain, great crowds followed him; and behold, a leper came to him and knelt before him, saying, "Lord, if you will, you can make me clean." And he stretched out his hand and touched him, saying, "I will; be clean." and immediately his leprosy was cleansed (Matthew 8:1-3).
This is only one of several times when Jesus touched the one whom he was healing. We know from the Biblical record that touching was not essential to the healing process. At Jesus' word, one could be healed even if he was not present, so it is easy to assume that physical touching was not necessary for physical healing. So why did Jesus touch the leper when he healed him?
According to the law of Moses, a leper was to identify himself as a leper so that non lepers could keep their distance. Leprosy was a communicable disease, so, as a result, a leper had to be quarantined from the healthy population. This man with leprosy had probably not experienced very much compassionate human touching in his life and perhaps that is why Jesus included touching in the healing process.
I have never considered myself as a "touchy, feely" guy, and yet when Helen's (my lovely and gracious wife) and my schedules become extremely busy and there is not much touching time, I find myself becoming irritable for no apparent reason. Touching is communication. Proper touching is validation, saying, "You are important to me," or "I love you."
Christians are called to be like their master. We should not be afraid to give a hug, a handshake or a pat on the back as we witness about the love of God and His Son, Jesus the Christ in our lives. Do you need a touch?
Our Father's Love,
Tom
This is only one of several times when Jesus touched the one whom he was healing. We know from the Biblical record that touching was not essential to the healing process. At Jesus' word, one could be healed even if he was not present, so it is easy to assume that physical touching was not necessary for physical healing. So why did Jesus touch the leper when he healed him?
According to the law of Moses, a leper was to identify himself as a leper so that non lepers could keep their distance. Leprosy was a communicable disease, so, as a result, a leper had to be quarantined from the healthy population. This man with leprosy had probably not experienced very much compassionate human touching in his life and perhaps that is why Jesus included touching in the healing process.
I have never considered myself as a "touchy, feely" guy, and yet when Helen's (my lovely and gracious wife) and my schedules become extremely busy and there is not much touching time, I find myself becoming irritable for no apparent reason. Touching is communication. Proper touching is validation, saying, "You are important to me," or "I love you."
Christians are called to be like their master. We should not be afraid to give a hug, a handshake or a pat on the back as we witness about the love of God and His Son, Jesus the Christ in our lives. Do you need a touch?
Our Father's Love,
Tom
Thursday, April 19, 2012
BE CAREFUL OF GENERICS
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge; because you have rejected knowledge, I will reject you . . . (Hosea 4:6).
I always like to have a Scripture text with the blurbs that I write. In this case it might be a little lame, but still, if we do not know something that is very important, we can really suffer because we did not know!
This morning I was reading and article written by a child psychiatrist, Glen Havens, about child mental health and medications. It was a very informative article, but one of the things that stood out to me was this: By Federal Drug Administration regulation, Generic compounds only have to be 70% as effective as the name brand to hit the market. There can be significant variability in therapeutic benefit. I assume that this applies to all generic medications and not just psychotropics. So, make sure you ask questions, and ask them again, and read labels so that you know what is the best decision to make in choosing between name brands and generics.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
I always like to have a Scripture text with the blurbs that I write. In this case it might be a little lame, but still, if we do not know something that is very important, we can really suffer because we did not know!
This morning I was reading and article written by a child psychiatrist, Glen Havens, about child mental health and medications. It was a very informative article, but one of the things that stood out to me was this: By Federal Drug Administration regulation, Generic compounds only have to be 70% as effective as the name brand to hit the market. There can be significant variability in therapeutic benefit. I assume that this applies to all generic medications and not just psychotropics. So, make sure you ask questions, and ask them again, and read labels so that you know what is the best decision to make in choosing between name brands and generics.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Monday, April 16, 2012
CHRISTIANS GIVING TO THE LORD WHAT HE DOESN'T ASK FOR AND NOT GIVING TO HIM WHAT HE DOES ASK
For I received from the Lord what I also delivered to you, that the Lord Jesus on the night when he was betrayed took bread and when he had given thanks, he broke it, and said, "This is my body which is broken for you. Do this in reremembrance of me." In the same way also the cup, after supper, saying, "This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me." For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord's death until he comes (I Corinthians 11:23-26).
As much as Helen and I enjoyed our trip to Kansas on Easter weekend, we left disappointed even though we were blessed by our visit. The reason we were disappointed was the fact that we did not receive communion. I thought it would be a certainty that communion would be offered in the Abbyville Community Church, but it was not. They did do some special things for Easter, and there was a gospel message, but there was no communion.
Services were over in Abbyville early enough so that we could go to another church where friends of our worship. They were having a rousing testimony time, but there was no communion. It is interesting to me that we are willing to give to the Lord what He hasn't ask for, and we do not give to Him what He has specifically asked for. He hasn't asked us to celebrate Easter--every Lord's day is to be "Easter" to the Christian--but we do not celebrate the Lord's Supper, which He has specifically asked us to celebrate. The Lord never asked us to go and lead people to repeat the "Sinner's Prayer," but He has specifically asked us to go and baptize sinners into Jesus Christ. It is twisted theology that has led to all of this, and I do not know how the Lord is going to deal with it in judgment, but we need to ask ourselves once in a while, "Am I giving to God something He has not asked for in place of something that He has asked?"
Celebrating communion is a Good Friday through Easter message like no other, and certainly, a testimony like no other. Without communion we left Abbyville a little empty.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
As much as Helen and I enjoyed our trip to Kansas on Easter weekend, we left disappointed even though we were blessed by our visit. The reason we were disappointed was the fact that we did not receive communion. I thought it would be a certainty that communion would be offered in the Abbyville Community Church, but it was not. They did do some special things for Easter, and there was a gospel message, but there was no communion.
Services were over in Abbyville early enough so that we could go to another church where friends of our worship. They were having a rousing testimony time, but there was no communion. It is interesting to me that we are willing to give to the Lord what He hasn't ask for, and we do not give to Him what He has specifically asked for. He hasn't asked us to celebrate Easter--every Lord's day is to be "Easter" to the Christian--but we do not celebrate the Lord's Supper, which He has specifically asked us to celebrate. The Lord never asked us to go and lead people to repeat the "Sinner's Prayer," but He has specifically asked us to go and baptize sinners into Jesus Christ. It is twisted theology that has led to all of this, and I do not know how the Lord is going to deal with it in judgment, but we need to ask ourselves once in a while, "Am I giving to God something He has not asked for in place of something that He has asked?"
Celebrating communion is a Good Friday through Easter message like no other, and certainly, a testimony like no other. Without communion we left Abbyville a little empty.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
Thursday, April 12, 2012
MORE ALIKE THAN DIFFERENT
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your strength, but with the temptation will also provide a way of escape, that you may be able to endure it (I Corinthians 10:13).
Human beings are more alike than they are different. Granted, there are almost infinite variations from person to person. It has been said that there are no two snowflakes that are alike, so it is that there are no two people exactly alike. Still, human beings are more alike than they are different. That is why those who work in health care can devise treatment protocols that can bring therapy and healing to the human body.
In the areas of mental health and spiritual health it is no less true, we are more alike than we are different. One of the dynamics of counseling with which the counselor almost always has to deal is the thinking on the part of the one being counseled is, "My case is different. You might have helped others, but my situation is so different, you will never be able to help me." But, the truth is, there is a sameness to our problems; they can be remedied if one is willing to accept the therapy.
We are people of flesh who live in the world. Satan attacks us through the desires and needs of the flesh: food, sex, social relationships being some of the strongest avenues of attack. Satan also attacks us through the philosophies of the world: pleasure, power, beauty and wealth being the most salient avenues. Because we are more alike than different, we are all vulnerable to satan's attacks on us through one, or more, means of attack.
The way of escape begins before the attacks come. Being close to God or Father, and his Son, Jesus Christ, is the best way to thwart Satan's schemes from the very beginning. In any case, trust this: God will not allow you to be tempted beyond which you are able to stand. Stand firm, you will make it! And never forget I John 1:9.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Human beings are more alike than they are different. Granted, there are almost infinite variations from person to person. It has been said that there are no two snowflakes that are alike, so it is that there are no two people exactly alike. Still, human beings are more alike than they are different. That is why those who work in health care can devise treatment protocols that can bring therapy and healing to the human body.
In the areas of mental health and spiritual health it is no less true, we are more alike than we are different. One of the dynamics of counseling with which the counselor almost always has to deal is the thinking on the part of the one being counseled is, "My case is different. You might have helped others, but my situation is so different, you will never be able to help me." But, the truth is, there is a sameness to our problems; they can be remedied if one is willing to accept the therapy.
We are people of flesh who live in the world. Satan attacks us through the desires and needs of the flesh: food, sex, social relationships being some of the strongest avenues of attack. Satan also attacks us through the philosophies of the world: pleasure, power, beauty and wealth being the most salient avenues. Because we are more alike than different, we are all vulnerable to satan's attacks on us through one, or more, means of attack.
The way of escape begins before the attacks come. Being close to God or Father, and his Son, Jesus Christ, is the best way to thwart Satan's schemes from the very beginning. In any case, trust this: God will not allow you to be tempted beyond which you are able to stand. Stand firm, you will make it! And never forget I John 1:9.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
A THOUSAND MILE DRIVE DOWN MEMORY LANE
Thus says the Lord; "Stand by the roads, and look, and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls" ( Jeremiah 6:16).
Helen and I drove to Kansas for the Easter break. It was good to take care of business at Helen's parents and to get a clearer understanding of their life situation. Being elderly people, their children need check on them fairly frequently. We attended "Good Friday" services at the New Strawn Christian Church and renewed some old acquaintances there. We spent Saturday cleaning and organizing around Dad & Mom's house and bid them farewell.
We were up and going at 5:30 Sunday Morning, driving from Burlington, Kansas to Abbyville, Kansas, arriving in time for morning worship. Abbyville is the location of my first church when I started in the Christian ministry. Though that was about 40 years ago, we still have dear friends there, one of them celebrating her 90th birthday. She doesn't look a day over 70. We spent the day visiting with our dear brothers and sisters in Christ, but by 6:00 p.m. we needed to begin the trip home to Iowa so I could make it to an appointment with the doctor on Monday. We did a lot of driving and visiting in a short time, but it was a blessing to us.
When we commit our lives to serving the Lord and walking in His way, there will be hardship and difficulty, but looking back, the way is good.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Helen and I drove to Kansas for the Easter break. It was good to take care of business at Helen's parents and to get a clearer understanding of their life situation. Being elderly people, their children need check on them fairly frequently. We attended "Good Friday" services at the New Strawn Christian Church and renewed some old acquaintances there. We spent Saturday cleaning and organizing around Dad & Mom's house and bid them farewell.
We were up and going at 5:30 Sunday Morning, driving from Burlington, Kansas to Abbyville, Kansas, arriving in time for morning worship. Abbyville is the location of my first church when I started in the Christian ministry. Though that was about 40 years ago, we still have dear friends there, one of them celebrating her 90th birthday. She doesn't look a day over 70. We spent the day visiting with our dear brothers and sisters in Christ, but by 6:00 p.m. we needed to begin the trip home to Iowa so I could make it to an appointment with the doctor on Monday. We did a lot of driving and visiting in a short time, but it was a blessing to us.
When we commit our lives to serving the Lord and walking in His way, there will be hardship and difficulty, but looking back, the way is good.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
Friday, April 06, 2012
THE DRAWING POWER OF GOD'S LOVE
No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him; and I will raise him up at the last day (John 6:44).
. . . "and I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all men to myself." He said this to show by what death he was to die (John 12:32-33).
What is traditionally called Easter is the season when attention is drawn to the historical events that are the foundation of the Christian faith, the death, burial and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. If these events are not true, there is no faith, no hope and no love in the world. That statement may sound extreme, but it simply means that if these events are not historical there is no God. Faith is reduced to ritual. Hope is reduced to wishful thinking. Love is reduced to altruism. And, we are still in our sins.
The power that draws people to God is not some mystical irresistible tractor beam focused on a few whom God has arbitrarily chosen, but it is the power of love extended to all who will receive it. If the good news of God's love will not move the human heart to surrender to Him, nothing else will. Have a blessed Easter season.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
. . . "and I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all men to myself." He said this to show by what death he was to die (John 12:32-33).
What is traditionally called Easter is the season when attention is drawn to the historical events that are the foundation of the Christian faith, the death, burial and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ. If these events are not true, there is no faith, no hope and no love in the world. That statement may sound extreme, but it simply means that if these events are not historical there is no God. Faith is reduced to ritual. Hope is reduced to wishful thinking. Love is reduced to altruism. And, we are still in our sins.
The power that draws people to God is not some mystical irresistible tractor beam focused on a few whom God has arbitrarily chosen, but it is the power of love extended to all who will receive it. If the good news of God's love will not move the human heart to surrender to Him, nothing else will. Have a blessed Easter season.
Our Father's Love,
Tom
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