WE CAN WORK IT OUT

". . . so that your words may give grace to those who hear" (Ephesians 4:29 NRSV).

I found this blurb on communication in "Psychology Today" by Lauren Aaronson that I thought would be a good technique for all of us to use.

"Want to predict the outcome of a spousal spat? Tally up pronouns. The person who says "We" the most during an argument puts forward the best solutions, according to a study in Psychological Science. "We"-users may have a sense of shared interest that sparks compromises and other ideas pleasing to both partners. "You"-sayers, on the contrary, tend to criticize, disagree, justify and otherwise teem with negativity. But sometimes criticism comes in handy. When one partner complains that he or she feels under attack, the other can ease the tension by rephrasing sentences to use the winning "we."

Grace & Peace;
Tom