"Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews 13:4).
A great many marriages fail; some as a result of addictions, some as a result of abuse and some as a result of affairs. When I see clients who see themselves as victims of a spouse's failures, at some point in the counseling process I always ask them, "What did you contribute to your spouse's failure?" Every apparently "Innocent victim" needs to do some honest self-examination to consider the possibility that he or she contributed something to the failures of the spouse.
Could it have been the lack of real presence? How can you make love to a spouse whose mind is a million miles away at work? How can you really be with some one who is a constant critic? These defile the marriage bed too because they prevent two people from really being with each other.
While there is no sufficient cause for sexual marital infidelity, abuse and addictions, yet the infidelities of workaholism, negative criticism or other-people pleasing can surely be contributing factors.
Grace&Peace,
Tom
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