For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven . . . a time for love, and a time to hate (Ecclesiastes 3:1&8).
Perhaps I should have included all eight verses of Ecclesiastes chapter three because they all have to do with the times of our lives on this earth--I was just too lazy to write them all out.
For the last 40 years in popular psychology there has been this notion that quality time is all that is required to have a relationship. But to have quality moments with a person, a lot of ordinary time is required. The notion of "quality time" is a symptom of the narcissism of the age, we text message so that we do not have to waste time talking on the phone, we do speed dating so that we do not waste time with the wrong people, etc. The idea that "hell is other people" is truly the philosophy of my generation and, as a result, the bitterness of the political divide and that divorce is rampant should not surprise us.
How do husbands and wives learn to trust each other? How do children learn to trust their parents? It takes time to know the true values of the other in real life. It is in the everyday conversations, watching each other as we respond to different situations, that we learn each other's language and the values they hold most dear. It takes a lot of ordinary moments in order to have quality time.
Our Father's Blessings,
Tom
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